Baby Daddies

There has to be a symposium for the baby daddy theory. A baby daddy by my definition is a man who willfully engages in the act of impregnating a women but then denies the responsibilities of actually fathering the the child and all the duties that come along with that. When this occurs in society, and even the judicial system this man is known as a baby daddy. There are certain personas that are included in a baby daddy that are: • Lazy • Freeloading • Only wants sex • Only watches kids when he is begged by mother • Intentions are to always have other sexual occurrences with the mother • At times selfish when it comes to kids and mother, only cares about himself • Usually on child support • Usually does not have visitation privileges • Children normally speak to him a few times a month if any • Never sends money for a childs well being, but mandated by the child support system • Normally does have a job, but if so not enough money to wipe his ass with • Usually does some drug i.e. weed, alcohol etc. • Normally has multiple kids by different women Unfortunately there is no way to spot a potential dead beat baby daddy because all men can create that imitative image in order to get what he needs. It merely becomes convenience once getting the women permanently. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, Out of 12.2 million single parent families in 2012, more than 80% were headed by single mothers. I dare to break this down into more specifics based on race, culture, demographics etc. No women ask to be in these situations. Unfortunately most women value sex as bonding, spiritual, loving, and divine unlike some men not all. When you find a man who understands the beauty of children and their perfections along with innocence you can avoid one of these baby daddies.

Lee Daniels "Gay action film"

Lee Daniels wants to make a gay action film coming off the 85% fictional Butler story.

Thoughts....

http://www.out.com/entertainment/popnography/2013/10/09/lee-daniels-wants-make-gay-action-hero-movie-alex-pettyfer

Spiritual Concepts and Practices

We are nothing but energy. Can neither be created nor destroyed. Spiritual beings who are eqipped with what is needed to live as gods. We control our on destiny and have what is needed on earth to stand out and stand alone from those who choose dogma and doctrine.

T.D. Jakes on Preachers of LA

I have always had tremendous respect for Bishop TD Jakes. His ministry the things he does for Africa and his conscious awareness. TD Jakes unlike many pastors is not timorous to come out the so-called church comfort zone and speak on things that plague the community. In this video he begins to speak on "The Preachers of LA” reality show calling it "filth" Bishop Jakes I feel began to make his congregation aware that he is not what you call a "Money Hungry Pastor" however, this is what the reality show illustrates. It shows pastors living an extravagant multi-million dollar life style. Many would say their men of God should live this way but be discrete, others disagree especially if the church is not prospering you be the judge!!

However I respect his commentary and believe everyone should watch. I do not believe all pastors are sneaky and dirty just some. Church is a multi-billion dollar tax-free business.

Why Marriages Don't PT3 Finale

Him and her get married it is good the first year and both realize there are small pet peeves they do not like about each other. He snores, she does not like to have sex as much, he is not affectionate, she does not recognize his good deeds, he wants kids, and she does not. These are some strong components in a relationship that God did not necessarily prepare him or her for. These are just natural things that people require. Some of these things are so intolerable they cannot be overlooked. Solution time! Let us pray about it. Pray day 1, day 2, day 3, nothing changes. Fast for 40days 40 nights nothing changes. Then go the Pastor he says continue to pray and go will work it out. This is not the predicament sometimes in marriage it causes for a right now solution not a later solution. The marriage continues to be unfulfilling. They both neither are not happy. They stay together because as religious people you hold on and pray eventually God will make a way. Meanwhile, 10 yrs have passed. By this time you both have learned how to look married not be married. I have always said “religion teaches people how to look married not be married.” Both finally take their emotions into their on hands. He begins to cheat, and she begins to neglect him furthermore. The marriage has been over but both do not want to say anything. It is incurable. Certain intangibles you both lack, which makes you both non-compatible. The resolution is finally to divorce and years have been waiting To conclude my theory, marriages do not last because religion teaches one how to look married and not be married. Church has become so involved in the doctrinating of both men and women they simply do not make the right decision in choosing their spouses. An example is instead of getting marital counseling from a professional counselor, religion makes you go to the pastor who is a one-book scholar. My solution is know who you are marrying do not rush it. Make sure there is some compatibility their because in the end that will be the cornerstone he or she needs in order to survive. My post was not meant to be offensive although many religious people will believe it is. It is to spread the word on to others who may not believe this way.

How To Deactivate Your Willie Lynch Chip; Speaker Ray Hagins

I have seen and had an opportunity to meet Dr. Ray Hagin on several occasions. He is a licensed Clinical Psychologist but has dedicated the majority of his life to making blacks living in America to start embracing their culture by exposing them to African consciousness.  There is a term called Pan Africanism that I will be writing on the next few days. Enjoy the video!!!

DR. RAY HAGINS: Religious Miseducation - African Consciousness vs Europe...

WORLD BANKER MAKES STUNNING CONFESSION

Very informative video from a World Banker about the global economic system

A Mans Faithfulness

Can a man be faithful to one woman? Many women catechize this question day in and day out. Even having relationships with their current significant others the questions have often pondered the imagination. I am here to answer this question as straight forward and honest as possible. Yes a man can be faithful to one woman. There are millions of men across the globe presently honoring and loving his queen promising a lifetime of fidelity. Lets understand the essence of a man and how this is possible. Men are not born faithful by nature but this is a habit that is often learned and then incorporated based on years of experience when having failed relationships. It more so environmental when it comes to most men. Not saying it is impossible to be faithful, I am sure with a certain upbringing or proper respect of women it is certainly attainable. It is noteworthy to know that a women cannot make a man be faithful all she can do is acknowledge when he does so which makes him more confident and reliable in being a good men. I hate for women to have to endure this pain but he has to mess up enough in order to get it right. Now its up to those women to stay or leave during this process. On a heavenly note when a woman stays and endures the pains because she loves her man this much, I almost certainly guarantee you the man now that will love you forevermore. He will never leave, you will be all he smells, touches, hears, and see’s. A mans faithfulness to women often goes back to his up bringing as a man. The majority of the time, if he does not see his father being faithful or other male figures he considers role models doing so he will more than likely not be faithful either as a young adult. This also plays a role in the deadbeat dad syndrome etc. However this is a topic we will discuss another time. There are good men out there unfortunately we never get it right the first time. It tough for us, women are more mature. However when we get it down that “faithfulness benefactor” it will be as a dream come true. Solutions are to never expect to change a man. Dr Maya Angelou stated, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” Know what your getting into set criterions, etc. It is not impossible he can be faithful it is to you whether you choose to go through the growing pains until it is so.

Why Marriages don't last pt2

Continuum of this series. Please read Pt1 in order to pick were I left off. Men and women whereas they are in church or their point of worship it often thought of to have a husband or wife. This is one of the most ultimate goals. No women wants to be single forever so she is in hopes of finding a good God fearing man in church the same as the men (brothers). Both man and women have been conditioned in religion to make themselves available. The psychological conditioning begins. View these following scriptures: Malachi 2:14,15 But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. 1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. I do not mean to be blasphemous mentioning scriptures from the Christian bible, but they are relevant in this case while proving my point. With doctrine like this professed I believe a man and women psyche begins to change. The women who once had her guard up is now compromised. It is tough walking around seeing other women who are in these so-called happy marriages with kids, she the single women has nothing to show living her 29 years on the earth. It is nothing wrong being independent demanding a man to earn a certain salary, certain job, look a certain way, have no kids, tall dark and handsome, etc. This is your requirement nothing wrong with that. Religion tells you these are unrealistic. Let “God send you a man.” Many times a man does come but the women get confused, and it is not the one God sent but the desperation has already kicked in. Next the man after begins to doubt his on wisdom from past relationships and puts finding good women in Gods hands because he has been let down so much. With many women this is also the case so vice versa. A man more than likely has been very promiscuous with his relationships. This is the only learning factor we have. We mess with enough no good women and realize is time for a change. Our requirements may be no kids, nice smile; personality can hang with the fellas and watch a game, not bothersome, etc. This goes out the window because when God sends good women we jump to the occasion often times overlooking our subconscious thoughts. The thoughts are saying do not rush it! Not right now! A little longer! She will come! Here are what I consider pressure into marriage scriptures: Matthew 19:26 (NIV)"Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." Genesis 2:18 (NIV)"The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:24 (NIV) "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh Mark 10:6-9 (NIV)"But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female. 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." Hebrews 10:24 (NIV) "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (NIV) "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." By this time the women is ready for her husband and kids, she has been waiting long enough. With religion she has seen her pastors, and friends walk around happy in marriage so she wants it. The man is tired of his friends being married and asking when is he going to tie the not. Now done. Desperation! I just want to be married God will work whatever problems we have out. God will be the head of our marriage and things will work. To be continued.....

Real Millionaire Preachers of LA [Pastors Living Lavishly]

Lately there is been much controversy of Oxygen’s new hit reality TV show “Preachers of La.” Despite the critics the show has an alarming fan base. According to euroweb.com “The series premiere of Oxygen’s new reality series, “Preachers of L.A.” delivered 1.1 million total viewers, which for Oxygen, is big numbers. Oxygen seems to have done it again profiting in the reality TV world we now live in. Now let’s analyze this show and why the backlash from Christians across America. Many members of congregations belong to churches were the Pastor is the leader, the so called shepherd as they would declare. This show reveals the lifestyle of pastors who happen to lead over mega churches. However it is in my research that there is no biasness of Pastors. There are pastors who have a congregation of no more that 100 driving around in brand new Cadillac’s. Why this? Let’s head to the word. Philippians 4:19 English Standard Version (ESV) 19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Here is the brain washer: Malachi 3:10 English Standard Version (ESV) 10 Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need. 2 Corinthians 8:9 English Standard Version (ESV) 9 For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake he became poor, so that you by his poverty might become rich. Here is the problem with it all. The pastors are living the lifestyles while the members are suffering. How is it possible for a pastor to obtain a brand new Bentley while there are members in the church below the poverty line? I am all for people living nice, and having fortune but at the same time church members should reflect their pastoral leadership. Hypothetically the Pastors were not living this way until their congregation began to grown. As the church grows a pastors salary grows this is simple economics. This show is blasphemous and it continues to lead people away from the church because this has always been a stigma in the church. The pastor gets wealthy the member gets poorer. On of the most powerful Bishops on the planet Bishop TD Jakes said it best “it is filth” Please comment….

Spirituality vs. Religion

There are some major differences between religion and spirituality. I consider myself a spiritual person and not confine myself in the dogma, doctrine, and cultism of religion. I am not hater because religion has made some people better as human beings. Better fathers, mothers, children, etc. It’s really a choice in many cases.

When contrasting the two I have found that religion says “ this doctrine we believe is sound, prophetic, and the actuality. Our savior, deity, etc. is the only way to having salvation in your life.” Christian choose Jesus, Muslims choose Muhammad, well hell here you go:

·        Chrishna of Hindostan.

·      Budha Sakia of India.

·      Salivahana of Bermuda.

·      Zulis, or Zhule, also Osiris and Orus, of Egypt.

·      Odin of the Scaudinavians.

·      Crite of Chaldea.

·      Zoroaster and Mithra of Persia.

·      Baal and Taut, "the only Begotten of God," of Phenicia.

·      Indra of Thibet.

o   Bali of Afghanistan.

·      Jao of Nepaul.

·      Wittoba of the Bilingonese.

·      Thammuz of Syria.

·      Atys of Phrygia.

·      Xaniolxis of Thrace.

·      Zoar of the Bonzes.

·      Adad of Assyria.

·      Deva Tat, and Sammonocadam of Siam.

·      Alcides of Thebes.

·      Mikado of the Sintoos.

·      Beddru of Japan.

·      Hesus or Eros, and Bremrillah, of the Druids.

·      Thor, son of Odin, of the Gauls.

·      Cadmus of Greece.

·      Hil and Feta of the Mandaites.

·      Gentaut and Quexalcote of Mexico.

·      Universal Monarch of the Sibyls.

·      Ischy of the Island of Formosa.

·      Divine Teacher of Plato.

·      Holy One of Xaca.

·      Fohi and Tien of China.

·      Adonis, son of the virgin Io of Greece.

·      IxiOn and Quirinus of Rome.

·      Prometheus of Caucasus.

·      Mohamud, or Mahomet, of Arabia.

These are all deities who happen to be saviors in their given culture. It is mighty strange all these different deities based on culture. Yes I can understand.  The diaspora of deities existed all over this planet. But yet they all say their way or the highway. Spiritualism recognizes that all the tools we need we were given to us since we were embryos in our mother’s womb. Before anything our parents were the first God like figures to us. We knew nothings else. Ponder that!

Spirituality is saying whatever spiritual system you use and apply daily, and it makes you a better human being continue to practice. You see the differences here. Religion confines you in a box and puts fear in your heart believe otherwise. Spirituality is not bias, or does not negate any spiritual system. There are millions of spiritual systems and dozens of religions

Why Marriages Do Not Last Pt1

Many individuals hope to married one day. It is a wonderful communion finding the soul mate you always have destined to be with. It is different from his or hers perspectives. For example women are taught as young ladies a husband and marriage with children serves as the greatest reward. Men somewhat different but no negative. Men are taught to be providers, or a cornerstone for their wife and kids. This is something instilled in a mans mind and believe it or not faces much pressure closer to that time of matrimony. Therefore, the questions poses how come marriages do not last? Why are marriages compared to those of our ancestors only lasting for no more than a year or two. I was always told once a married couple gets past the four or five-year mark they are considered veterans. What do you think? There has to be an answer for why marriages are not successful. Here are some reasons that some think marriages collapse

·      Infidelity

·      Children

·      Intermediate Family

·      Trust Issues

·      Sex

·      Finances

·      Just to name a few

            These factors listed above are very dominant in the making of some nasty divorces. Allow me to take this from a different angle. There is one rationale not mentioned in the list above. Guess which one? The answer is religion. Yes I said it religion. I may be crucified for this no pun intended, or looked very negatively upon. You are asking yourself how is this possible when most marriages are founded or started upon religion. Allow me to elaborate.

A single man or women is going to church for one thing, depending on the religion he or she is a part of it is to gain more of personal relationship with their God. For example Christians go to church to get a closer relationship with Jesus and to accept him as their personal savior. Muslims believe in Allah and that he will bring governmental peace were all could live together in peace. Both doctrines have similar doctrine but that is another discussion.

To be continued.....